The following are some tips for communicating with with your child during and after divorce. Thanks to the folks at divorcesupport.com for this great information
Remember to be as open as possible, which will reinforce and even enhance your trust for one another. Many parents find that they do communicate better during divorce and/or separation because it is the first time in a while that they were forced to have meaningful conversations. This is not necessarily the reason in your case, but divorce and/or separation can create a stronger parent-child bond. Communicating effectively with your child actually gives him or her the sense of greater responsibility and respect. In conversation, be sure to listen and allow your child to express his or her own opinions.
Strategies and Tactics to Improve or Continue Good Communication:
– Pick a place where you both feel comfortable.
– Never criticize the other parent in conversation. This includes all body gestures, like the rolling of the eyes or shrugging.
– Stay calm when things get a little heated and avoid quick irrational responses.
– Never use threats or ultimatums.
– Stay on the topic of conversation. If another issue comes up, write it down and discuss it at a later time.
– Look, don’t just listen, for your response. Facial Expressions are as telling as words.
– Do not interrupt your child.
– Do not talk down to your child as if he or she does not understand.
– Avoid saying, “If you were older you would know what I am talking about”, because your child will interpret this as your excuse for being wrong.